As part of my new Carlotarules makeover –nothing too rad, just a few changes– I decided I would go a bit personal from time to time on the blog. My mind is always rushing with different thoughts, and sometimes the best way for me to let them go is to sit down and start typing..

I’ve been in quite a good mood recently. Lie. I’ve been in a very good mood recently. Things at work are going well –still I would love to do more, but time needs time- and my social life has changed just enough so that I don’t have to spend weekends at home. So there is nothing much to complain about.

However, despite this fairy tale I’m living in right now –I’m sorry I can’t stop exaggerating- I still can feel a lot of negative vibes around myself. Not necessarily coming from myself.. if you know what I mean. I consider myself a very emphatic person, the one that if I feel like someone is in a bad mood I won’t even try go talk to them. And this might feel a little drastic, because it is. We all have our days, I have mine. Days where I’m an absolute pain in the ass –I admit it- but when is something recurrent, I know that there’s nothing I can do about it. That kind of people is not what I want around me. I need happiness, I need fun, I need positivity.

Negativity is something I’ve never been able to bear with. I’m always the one that will think of something positive out of a terrible situation. That’s me. But sometimes is difficult to stay positive when you surround yourself of people that are constantly pitting themselves. It´s consuming, it literally consumes me in a way I can´t describe. And it’s not always just about words, there are some gestures or looks that also push me further from wanting a conversation with them, or even be near them.

I don’t know, maybe this is just the way I am, however there’s one thing I know for sure: I don’t want toxic people around me, and someone that can handle life with at least some fun and is always angry, is toxic. I think the best way to sum this rambling up is with this quote, which is perfect and don’t think I would have been able to say it better:

“Ignore people who threaten your joy. Literally, ignore them. Say nothing. Don’t invite any parts of them into your space.” — Alex Elle

How do you deal with negative people?